"That woman" being a woman that I work with. I work in an office that consists almost entirely of women. We all get along, and get together outside of the office sometimes as well. We have one co-worker who likes to over share. She's constantly talking about inappropriate things, and for some reason feels the need to include very graphic details about her sex life with her boyfriend. We've tried walking away, changing the subject, you name it we've tried to convey to her that we're not interested in the intimate details of her relationship but it doesn't work.
Well yesterday at lunch there was 4 of us sitting eating our lunch just chatting and then she started to talk about birth control, and then she started to mention that she had "forgotten" to take a few of her birth control pills that past month. Now she's talked about how she's "forgotten" to take pills before, and how she desperately wants to have a baby. So we took the bait and asked her how many pills she "forgot" to take. She forgot to take five pills that month! Yes, almost an entire week of pills. Someone immediately said, "don't you think that maybe you're "forgetting" to take these pills on purpose to get pregnant?" We asked her if she had told her boyfriend how many pills she had missed that cycle. Her answer? "well he knows that I've missed a pill or two in the past, but I haven't told him". (I'm mentally shaking my head at this point.)
Now one thing I forgot to mention is that this woman and her boyfriend have a very dysfunctional relationship. He doesn't like to tell her where he's going to be throughout the week because he doesn't like her "keeping tabs" on him. She will call him to say hello and he won't answer the call. She can go an entire week without talking to him because he doesn't feel like talking to her. But then on the weekend when he wants some sex, he'll call her and she'll go running to see him.
Later on after lunch she's venting to me how much her b/f has been annoying her lately, and not answering phone calls, and how he arranged to work on his birthday and told her not to call him that day. I turned to her and said that would be an excellent reason why she should start taking her birth control everyday, and how a baby doesn't solve a problematic relationship, it just makes it more problematic. She just got very quiet and changed the subject.
It just gets so hard to just stand by and watch someone that you're friends with be so foolish and not see the roadsigns that all of us see. I think she feels that if she gets pregnant he'll immediately commit to her, and she'll have the life that she desperately wants. Two of us are married in the office, and she's made many comments about how it's not fair because we're younger than her. (rolling my eyes! It's not a competition!!)
At least she won't be in the office today, so we'll have a little peace and quiet.
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